What defines you?
You may define yourself by the things that you have, your job, your relationships or the activities that you do. I listened to an amazing podcast by last week that shed light on what determines who you are, and I couldn’t help but share the truth that…
you are not what you do.
Years ago, people used to be defined by what they have. You would determine your self-worth by your money, your kids and the tangible things you have in your home. Now, with the popularity of social media, many people believe that they are what they do. We post pictures of ourselves doing certain activities, which causes people to think we are a specific type of person based off of those activities. You can easily change who you are and who people think you are by using social media to capture you doing one specific thing. You want to be a runner? So you snap pics of you with your tennis shoes on daily. I’m not saying that capturing what we do on social media is always a bad thing (I’m obviously doing that as a blogger), but I do think there’s a fine line in using it as a tool that shapes you in a positive way. You can read more about my views on how to develop a healthy relationship with social media here.
As a person who has previously struggled with an eating disorder, I realize now that many of my disordered thoughts were because I was letting my activities and the way I looked determine my worth. My ability to run a certain amount of miles and my ability to control what I was eating gave me a gauge of how much I was loved and worthy. This ultimately was a dead end because no matter how much time I spent exercising or how little I ate, I never felt good enough.
This helps further clarify the truth that we are not what we do. I believe we find our identity in Christ. “Our relationship comes from the fact that God has made Himself our Dad and the primacy of a relationship that has claimed me,” says Father Mike Schmitz. When you find yourself through him, you will not question your worth or need to do certain activities to feel loved. You have a father who loves and created you. If your relationship with God is real, then your identity is unshakeable. Your activities and the things that you have can change frequently, and you will still know who you are in him.
So if you’re running around looking for the next thing you can do to bring you happiness and joy, I’d take some time to think about what is defining you. Those activities won’t fill you up in the long run. Be rooted in who you are in the Lord and actively get to know him. Prayer is a very good place to start.
You aren’t what you do.
You are beautifully and wonderfully made by a God who loves you.
XO – Morgan, Mint+Mo
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